This Thing is Not Meant For You
When something is not working, we have some choices to make. If you are in a situation of suffering, Eckhart Tolle says that, “you have three options: remove yourself from the situation, change it, or accept it. All else is madness.”
Yet, here you are, trying to force something to work that isn’t working.
Maybe it’s that relationship, which you knew was done a long time ago, but your ego will not let it go. The idea that your significant other might not love you or might find someone else causes you to continue to push something that is only brining everyone pain.
Perhaps it is the job that you are holding onto while your boss is doing everything they can to have you removed. You could have done a good job, or maybe you didn’t, either way, you are not the right fit with the direction of the organization. But you hold on and find so many ways to be miserable rather than go find something that will make you happy.
It is madness. It is also self-abandonment.
You CAN be/do anything you want, but when you force something, it is time to re-visit your vision to adjust to reality.
I’m writing this knowing that it might not reach the person who needs it. But I need to tell you to wake up. Look around you.
Seriously, if something is causing you suffering, then you really are walking towards it. Unless you have no other option but to accept a situation, every time you stay somewhere that you do not fit, you tell yourself you do not deserve to fit and you do not deserve happiness.
I know it’s hard to let go, but why do you want something that is wrong for you?
When we continue to stay in a situation that makes us miserable, it is because we are afraid that our next choice might turn out worse. And so what if it does?
Move On and Befriend Yourself
To stick with something that is not working is self-abandonment. To leave will feel like failure. But people fail, and that’s okay. We have to fail to learn what doesn’t serve us. It’s time to move on and go heal.
The misery you are in is the inner layers of you crying to be heard. These layers are begging for you to go on a journey of understanding and befriending yourself.
My company, Shared Lotus, has courses and workshops for this, but there are thousands of ways to start. First, though, you have to take responsibility for your life. This beautiful life was not meant to be squandered convincing other people of your value.
I want you to go watch this Video of Brené Brown explaining what holds us back from being our greatest.
She refers to this quote by Theodore Roosevelt:
“It is not the critic who counts…The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming…if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly.”
You are failing right now for a reason. Since you have found this article, I’m going to tell you that the reason you are failing is so you can see that this thing is not meant for you.
It is time for you to go out and dare greatly with your life. Everyone’s life is special and important. There is no rush, there is no perfect.
As long as you are striving and doing the work to heal and find happiness, you will not waste your time. It doesn’t need to be dramatic and big. It’s the slow and wonderful journey for happiness and joy is the whole point.
So what’s holding you back?
Dr. Autumn Thomas
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